Many of the most meaningful and fun events in life don’t last very long—a ceremony, a magic trick, a victory lap, a miracle, a dream. A first time. The last time.

 

If they happened all day, every day, they’d cease to be special. What keeps them fresh and cherished is our memory of them. Our memories can be jump-started by a photograph, a song, a scent, a place, an anniversary, or a you-name-it. Our memories, given free rein, can even award bonus points.

 

Our favorite books have a last page. Our favorite people have a last breath. We may not like it, but deep down we know there’s a reason for it. Some reasons are readily understood and accepted. Others require some mental and spiritual gymnastics. We’re good at celebrating some endings and new beginnings. Others take a while. We’re all dealing with it, so let’s be gentle and kind. This new year, let’s resolve to rise above the daily trivialities and relate to each other on a more helpful level.